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May 17, 2007 11:52:09 GMT
Post by flossy on May 17, 2007 11:52:09 GMT
My Grandad has this terrible disease.
He was diagnosed in January and since then he seems to have shrunk, he is 80. Nobody would tell him how long he will live with this. Because he is so tired he seems to spend most of his time in bed, I hate to think of the lonliness somebody calls in for a cup of tea each day. I hate to see a once happy, joking fit man get so frail day by day infront of our eyes. He has had enough of life now and I cant tell him to be positive as we know the end must be near. Why is there so little that can be done I know he is old and I am a very positive person dont think for one minute I have given up but it is difficult. I have considered taking him to my house but I have 3 young children and I dont want them upsetting they may never forget. If I can help in anyway time, website, somebody to talk to please I am happy to help. Vicky
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May 17, 2007 18:34:41 GMT
Post by hel on May 17, 2007 18:34:41 GMT
Hi Flossy, Thankyou for your very touching message. I know exactly where you are coming from. It is very frustrating to have to sit and wait to die because there is nothing about that will help. It doesn't matter if you are 18 or 80...there should still be something that can help. I appreciate your offer of help and would very much like to add you as a support if that is what you want. Any ideas you have for the website are welcome. You sound like you have your hands full with 3 children . Keep in touch and any help and support I can give you, don't hesitate to ask. My email is Phu_phita@hotmail.com if you want to communicate privatley.
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May 22, 2007 9:49:42 GMT
Post by flossy on May 22, 2007 9:49:42 GMT
Hi
Would love to offer any help I can. Yes your right always busy full time work, 3 kids, 1 step son at home, husband biggest kid and two dogs on top of grandparents caring. Gosh But I can't sit back and do nothing it is not my nature i can't help doing even if others semm less reluctant.
I work for a computer firm and dabble with web design if I can help in that way let me know.
Vicky
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May 23, 2007 7:22:27 GMT
Post by hel on May 23, 2007 7:22:27 GMT
If you are that keen Vicky, start your own in Yorkshire. I will hep you all I can. My daughter built my site and I am happy to let you use the name if you want to or create your own site about your grandad, name it after him as a memorial that way something positive will come out of somethng so negative. Go to the press and publicise what you want to do and you can use my name to the press if it helps you. Good on you for standing up and fighting. Like you say...too many sit back and do nothing... like you..I can't do that. Go for it girl...... You have my support. Debz
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May 23, 2007 8:50:58 GMT
Post by flossy on May 23, 2007 8:50:58 GMT
Hi Deb
Do you mind me calling you Deb. What a considence the first business I was involved with was mobile phones and we sold only Orange phone, I loved that job, always talking to staff in Darlington.
What a great idea I could do that I will start working in on it today I will keep you informed all the way.
If I need any help you will my 1st line of contact. I have been telling my grandad about you as we are very close and he would like to know how you are really feeling.
All the best And if you want a chat remeber you need others too. my email address is fozard@gmail.com
Vicky
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May 23, 2007 16:23:06 GMT
Post by hel on May 23, 2007 16:23:06 GMT
Hi Vicky, You can call me Deb, Don't mind at all. Good luck with the site and if there is anything I can do, let me know, I will be only too happy to help. When I found out about Mesothelioma I had been told I had 6/9 months to live and at my last meeting with a consultant it was changed to 1/2 years, nobody knows. Saying that, my oncologist is very positive and says he has known people who have lived for 7/10 years or more after diagnosis. It is all generalised. My first oncologist compared me to people a lot older than me who have worked in the industry. I have had my third CT scan and Theo (my cancer) has not grown. . (We have a deal, I won't blast him with chemo if he doesn't grow . ) Hopefully he will just be a friend and support me and not try and take over my world (sounding a bit crazy I know but if I personify my cancer it helps me to deal with it). Tell your grandad I am thinking of him. Take care and once again good luck Debz
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